#To Have and To Hashtag

Thirteen; some say it’s unlucky, some think the opposite and some think that the whole thing is complete nonsense. Whatever your personal thoughts on the superstition, 2012 saw a lot of talk about some couples' hesitation to marry in the following year.

From what we saw, all the talk had little to no effect on the amount of people willing to take that trip down the aisle. We saw some beautiful weddings in 2013, some fabulous locations and several brilliant ideas. All in all, we had a really fun year. Take that, Triskaidekaphobia*!

Now that 2013 has come to a close and the number of this new year comes with no kind of superstitions attached - at least, none that I’m aware of - we’re looking ahead and the question of the moment is...

What will 2014 hold for all of you soon to be brides and grooms?

Unfortunately, I’ve lost my crystal ball. It’s possible that it’s fallen down the back of the sofa with a pocket's worth of loose change and roughly 94 tiny IKEA pencils but for now at least, I cannot see into the future.

Recently, however, there is something I have noticed – the combination of weddings and social media appears to have created a divide. It seems that there is a trend emerging to make your wedding a social media event, complete with its very own hashtag and Facebook page. Some couples are keen to have their guests document every part of their big day on sites such as Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Vine. They set up their custom hashtags or pages in advance and advise the guests by either invitation, place cards or cute signs around the venue. The benefit of this is that with an army of documenters, you are sure to capture the widest possible view of your day, from tiny dancing bridesmaids to less tiny dancing uncles!

There is, of course, an opposing view of this new trend. There are many couples who don't really want their special moment splashed across the Internet for everyone to see. They may want to keep out the looky-loos, that girl from school who you can't really remember, but were too polite to refuse their Facebook request, or the ex who replies to every single tweet. These couples have been ensuring that their invitations or place cards politely ask their guests not to upload their photos or videos to social media sites. To them, a wedding is a private affair, and it really is 'invitation only'.

Naturally there are pros and cons to both options; in organising your wedding’s social media presence you have an easy way to gather all footage of the day and you can capture a great deal more than you would be able to by just using professionals; though there’s obviously the matter of quality vs. quantity.

By keeping the event away from the web you get to preserve your privacy and of course you don’t have the issue of having to track someone down and make them delete that particular picture where you’re oddly cross-eyed and your partner looks far too drunk for mid-afternoon.

Either way it’s a matter of personal preference - is it all or nothing, a mix of both or do you simply not mind?

I guess by this time next year we’ll know if this divide has had any effect on weddings in 2014. It is clear that social media isn't going anywhere, and the options for letting the world into your life are growing by the day. Perhaps if you're organising your own big event, it's worth taking a moment to decide just how much you want to show the world, and how much you'd like to keep within your new family.

*(fear of the number thirteen!)